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jackoffDear Flame Dame,

Last night I walked in on my boyfriend jacking off to some porn and... I freaked out. I'd love to tell you it resulted in a hot and heavy session between us but unfortunately it did not. I found myself feeling neglected and rejected. Am I not enough for him that he has to jack off when I'm not around? I feel like he doesn't find me attractive despite the fact our sex life is very healthy and he tells me he is attracted to me. How can I deal with this?

Sincerely, Jack Off

Dear Jack Off,

A very common response to masturbation in a relationship is negative. Almost as if your partner masturbates then they are not saving themselves for you or they are sexually unsatisfied. Well I am here to tell you that this is often untrue. Masturbation while in a relationship is not only healthy but can actually be an amazing tool for being more sexually connected to your lover. Imagine walking in on your partner already warmed up for you and sitting down next to him for a mutual session. How hot would it be to watch your lover getting all hot and bothered watching you do the same?! Incredibly hot! That's how!

Not everyone is into masturbation. Some simply do not feel the urge to touch themselves and unless your partner is only touching themselves and not you, then your sex life is totally healthy. Just remember that your partner is not replacing you with self love, it is simply another realm of their sexuality to explore.

Try it together, then tell me how you feel about it. I'm betting once you change your views on it, things will be a lot hotter for you. You might even find yourselves watching porn together and connecting over what turns you on.

Happy Stroking and Big Busty Hugs

The Flame Dame

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