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Dear Flame Dame,

I have just started dating a guy and things seem to be going really well. We click on so many levels and the sex is awesome. He is fairly vanilla and I (secretly) am actually quite kinky. I have some interests that could definitely be considered risque and taboo. Nothing too bad, just definitely things I'd be worried he might not be into. How do I approach him on these sexual kinks so I don't scare him away?

Twink in Pink Panties

Dear Twink In Pink Panties,

As in everything, honesty is the best policy. I know some people might say that some things are better kept a secret to shelter someone, but in this case, be open and honest. This is a new relationship and you want to learn as much as you can about each other. Look at the kinks that you have and whether or not your potential life mate (yeah, I said it) even NEEDS to know about them.

If you enjoy masturbation with a ball gag in your mouth while sitting all alone on the toilet, he really doesn't need to know about that does he. But if you absolutely LOVE bondage and need to be tied to the bed frame before you can cum, then yeah you should tell him about it. He could accept and potentially encourage your kink and you will enjoy it together.

Everyone loves to be accepted for who they are, even when they're kinky freaks. Worst case scenario is that he will tell you the kinks are too much for him and it might be a sign of the many ways people are different, or he might just break up with your freaky ass. But my point is, wouldn't you rather be with someone who loves the pink leather g-string you wear under your suit, than with someone who thinks less of you for it.

Alternatively, you might also be able to peak an interest in him with your fetish. Introducing it to him by watching porn with it and seeing his reaction or just asking him what he thinks of it are also great ways to test the kinky waters. I know many kinky guys who are converted vanilla's thanks to their lover who dared to ask them.

Moral of the day kiddies : Take a chance, Find Your Freaky Fish!

Big Busty Hugs,

The Flame Dame


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